Tag: healing

Parents get to KNOW your kids

As a parent, we do our best to raise our kids to be decent individuals. Even though there are tons of books on parenting, it’s just a role that you have to learn once your in it.

Some of the biggest mistakes that parents make is set the idea of who their child is in their heads versus learning who their child really is. Parents can have the thought that their child will get high marks in school like they did or become that all-star athlete like they were and it’s not fair. Parents also raise their children to be a certain way, obtain certain values and when that child goes astray, we sit and wonder “why?”.

Please do not take this post as me saying that we can’t set rules and the tone for the upbringing of our children. My point is that a certain point in the adolescent/young adult stage, we need to communicate with our kids. We need to understand their voice, likes/dislikes, how they see the world and thoughts about love, etc. Once this happens, your son or daughter will present their true selves to you. It doesn’t mean we have to agree or even like it, but we do have to show Respect to them.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Healing+Forgiveness

We often continue to live in the past and continue an unwanted cycle. Let’s make a decision to push through adversity and claim victory for ourselves. I believe in order for us to do this we need to Heal and forgive ourselves. Heal from the trauma that we experienced (no matter if it was big or small) and forgive ourselves because we continued to allow past trauma affect current decisions that we make. You got this, I got this, We All Got This 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯

Our circle is going through it too

I’m so guilty of this 🤦🏾‍♀️ but I’m a Work In Progress! And I’m sure I’m not alone with this. I have a big heart and would have the expectation that others should do what I do.. False! Friends, we can’t do this because not only is it draining, but it’s also not fair to others in our circle. Not everyone expresses the issues that they are battling, some need that isolation because they are trying to heal. Let’s continue to keep them in prayer during this season. Try not to think they are shading you or no longer love you. They do but they have to love themselves more.

Happy Hump Day Friends! Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

*Caution* Personal Self Growth Ahead…

Hi Friends!!!

I know I haven’t been doing a lot of blog posts and there IS a reason for that! I am currently doing a lot of Self healing and reflecting. I realize that I can’t work from an empty cup and could burn out. I don’t want to fail, fall into a depression, I want to HEAL.

The beginning of this process is truly a challenge. I have to dig deep into the core of Myself. I’ve cried a lot, I’m angry, I’m sad… so full of emotions. But it IS for the good that this happens. With the baby steps that I’ve taken, I feel lighter and some stress levels has decreased.

So please be patient with me. I am ok, but will be even better soon. I have some plans up my sleeve and I look forward to executing them! I pray that you all are well and I thank you for your continued support! Cheers to SELF GROWTH!!!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Search within

This is not an easy task. The truth is, we rely so much on people and outside factors to give us happiness. You’re significant other, family, nor your friends are responsible for your happiness. You ARE.

We have to dig deep. Release those layers of hurt, dysfunction, self doubt, and fear. Things will get tough, you may have days and months of the ugly crying but it’s ok. Never think crying is a weakness, it’s a reminder that you are Human.

I too, am doing the same. Therefore, you are Not Alone.

Thank you for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Would you do what it takes if….

Where is the love Wednesday!
To piggy back off of my M.M post (when the odds are against you), if your relationship was in jeopardy, would you do what it takes to save it?

Many people love to say: “I’m the ride or die for my man or woman” but what if you reached a point in your relationship of no return? Meaning something horrible happened such as the loss of a job, infidelity, an incurable illness, etc.? And it caused major friction in your relationship, do you think you would do whatever it takes to keep your relationship strong? 

As an aspiring therapist, I’m big on therapy or group therapy. The issue with that is that for many people, they were taught to be “strong”, not to be vulnerable to others (especially strangers), or that therapy is only for the crazies. All these things are not true and are merely just excuses we give ourselves when we are in denial to get help. 
If you are willing to do whatever it takes to get things right, you HAVE to be HONEST. With any hardship in a relationship, the reconciliation process requires it. The honesty, good or bad, can be the beginning of the healing process of trusting your partner again. 
Be Realistic. It. Takes. Time. Patience is a virtue but also a major key to what it takes. If trust is broken, you have to let life run its course. If your partner has ultimatums that are NEEDED you better (yes, I said better) do what is asked or you can kiss the relationship goodbye. Now, if the relationship is worthless to you, abiding by the requests isn’t necessary and you can walk away. There is no need to go through the motions.
Just some thoughts to think of friends. Well wishes in your relationships!
Thanks for reading and sharing!
Nicole Cherise❤️