Category: People

Feel Good Friday’s: you Are doing your best

  
Hi friends!

This is a reminder for us all. 

I will admit that I’m my toughest critic. Even when it comes to this blog, there are times when I think “ok not much responses equals I suck at this” lol. Even when it comes to family and friends, I’m always thinking what can I do to be a better wife, mother,  family member and friend or bring awareness to MS? The truth is…..

I AM DOING THR BEST THAT I CAN! 

Guess what?…. So are YOU!

It’s one day at a time and you are only one person. Things will get better. You will meet goals, gain those visions, get that relationship, things WILL be fine. So smile for now and know you are doing your best!

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays: name changes after marriage and info

Hi friends!

Sorry for the delay of this post, but Happy Wednesday! 
So, someone I know got married recently and is about to go through the process of changing her name and identifications. I also have others near and dear to me who said they plan to hyphen their names or keep their maiden name. For myself, I changed my name to my husbands and I’m fine with that. When I share this with others, they say “oh, I don’t want to change my I.D.’s so I’ll just hyphen”. Well, you DO have to change your identification because once you fill out your marriage license to what your new surname will be that’s what needs to read on your identification. The only way you will Not have to update your I.D.’s is if you continue to use your Birth/maiden name. 
I want to know something, to those who plan to hyphen because of your own personal reasons, if or when if you choose to have children, will they have two surnames? I know in the Latino cultures, many children are given two surnames, but usually the child ends up going by the first surname anyway. So what are your thoughts?
Anyone can answer this question not just couples, and not just a particular sex. I’d like to know your opinions. Thanks!
Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s : be with like-minded people

  
 Hey friends! 
Not only do I love this picture, but I love the quote that the writer made. Some people believe that in order to get to your full potential, you need to associate with others who are in the position you want or trying to achieve those goals. I have to say that I agree. The people we speak to regularly play a major role in our lives. 
With saying that, how many are associated with others who want to achieve goals like themselves? This doesn’t have to only involve career goals, it can be relationship goals, financial goals, etc. I believe that if you want to become an entrepreneur, some of your contacts should be so as well. You can’t only associate with those who do Not have the dream of owning their own business because it can be harder to achieve that dream without that extra push. Let’s say you want to get married or thinking about parenthood, yes, those are both journeys in life that are not the same for everyone, but having a mentor who is married or a parent can help give insight on things to expect. Let’s face it, sometimes we can’t get that from family because of the different dynamics and biases. 
There are many other benefits that I’m sure I missed. Does anyone else associate or have a mentor with others that are like-minded? What other benefits do you believe take place?
Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays :why you shouldn’t give up on love because of failed relationships 

Hi Friends!
This seems to be a topic amongst people 30+ who aren’t married, single parents or recent unfortunate break ups. It truly breaks my heart when I hear people say these things, especially when they have so much to offer. After going through a break up or if you are currently in a “dead-in” relationship, that doesn’t mean that no one would want you or you are doomed to be single forever. It simply means that you and the ex are not a good pair. He or she is Not the person you should continue to put in the hard work for especially if they aren’t working hard or decided to call it quits.
During a break up, I encourage others to do some soul searching and to reevaluate themselves. Look back at things that went wrong. Do you see how certain situations could have been prevented? Can you own up to Your part of why things went sour? Have you learned more about yourself after the storm has calmed? In a relationship, you are not set to be changed or to change the person you are with and to “create” the perfect person. You are meant to have growth and to inspire one another. If you constantly try to force them to be something they are not and vice versa, you are already headed for disaster. Next time go for who Exactly you want. 
So the “love of your life” doesn’t love you anymore and now you feel unlovable. Please don’t feel that way. You are able to love and receive it, just be careful who you allow to come in your most vulnerable place. You said that you have a child and who is going to want you? A person possibly with the same dynamic or someone who Will love you and your child(s). A child is a blessing, and someone with a genuine heart can see first hand how you can love someone else other than yourself. They will truly appreciate you and respect you for being a great parent and could also accept the hold as their own. Lastly, age… Since when is it ok to put a deadline on love? That’s possibly one of Your issues you need to battle. Our generation wants things so quickly and for what? The title? The status? I don’t know, but like anything else, it comes with dedication and hard work. So what if you are 30+ and still single, have you thought to yourself, what a wife or husband should be and if you are all around ready? People love the idea of marriage because of the “dream” wedding, but the substance that comes after is key. If you are selfish in many different aspects of life, I’m sorry, but that can’t fly in a marriage. Therefore, while we focus on age, we really should focus on the maturity that’s needed for marriage.
If any of these things apply to you, I pray that my words can bring some relief. I’m here if you need me.
Nicole Cherise

M.M.–Your “why” should be bigger than you

Hey all! 

While having a discussion with my DH (darling husband) about sports, we spoke about players having less of an ego when it comes to being on a team and I completely agree!
Please don’t misunderstand, I know we all have pride in our art or our passion in life, but I believe your “why” should be bigger than you. We all have reasons to “why” we want to be a “success” and that’s what motivates us. However, we can lose track and start to become bigger than ourselves, especially when you are placed on a pedestal by people. 
My “why” is my family and support for people. When I write in this blog, post videos, listen to others/give feedback, it’s not for me to gain glory. I do this because I want for people to know they are not alone in their battles because I’m battling right next to you. Even with my struggles, my family is my priority and it’s because of them that I don’t give up on my dreams or lose hope. I also want more for my family. A better me equals a better person, a better relationship with God, a better wife, a better mother, which trickles down to a decent child growing up in this big corrupted world. It’s a chain reaction and I want a positive one to re-chain. I do not aim to be on a pedestal, I aim to inspire and show love that someone may not be getting in life. 
What is your “why”? Have you sat down and really thought of that? Let me know!
@NicoleCherise

The Eyes don’t lie

This is a phrase that I’ve always said and live by. We encounter plenty of people every day and many, when you ask “how are you?” They can give a brief smile and say I’m fine. I too, am one of these people. I smile briefly and say I’m fine but deep down, I could be sad or in a lot of pain. Now, don’t get me wrong, I do consider myself a positive person and I try to find good in many situations but I do get in a rut of a mood, I just choose to not be there for long. See, what I’ve learned in life is that we all have challenges. Even the people who are wealthy, they have to constantly worry if love is tainted or they are always on the go with barely time for family and friends. 

The eyes are the windows to the soul. They show when we are sad, angry or even weak from illness. So when someone does Know you, they can take one look at you and tell that something isn’t right. It’s ok friends to have these moments, but just try not to stay there. You can get in a hole, but you don’t have to remain in there. 

NicoleCherise

Life lessons

When things begin to change in your life, people will begin to show you their true colors. Those long conversations begin to dwindle and you wonder why? The problem is some people want to you stay where you are in life and Not advance. Another issue is that people are jealous of your achievements. Try to be aware of these things so that these negative vibes don’t cloud your judgement.
@NicoleCherise ❤ ️

Where is the love Wednesday: people who Are in the audience for your downfall

Hi all,

If it’s something I’ve learned in these past years is that, not all who clap for you Are for you. This was hard for me to accept because I try to see the good in everyone. 
The unfortunate thing is that a lot of times this happens with family, friends and colleagues. The “crab in the barrel” syndrome of not wanting to see others do better than yourself so you pull them down anyway you can. 
When you start to see the actions of others or even hear sly remarks, get those individuals out of your environment. Those negative vibes can effect your mental state, ambitions and happiness. Please don’t give them that power and let them go. 
So try to be care of who is in your circle and those who are “clapping” for you. Not all are genuine and they are truly clapping for your downfall. 
Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesday?: holding hands

Holding hands, we all did it at some point in our life. Rather, it’s as a child; holding your parents hand so that you wouldn’t get lost or while crossing the street. We hold hands during times of prayer and saying grace in some family customs. Hands are also held between lovers.

When I think about holding hands, it’s an intimate exchange with my husband, I feel support from him and most importantly safe. I love holding his hand. 
Do you hold hands with your significant other?
Nicole Cherise